The Diary of an Army wife

                  My first trimester was very eventful. I knew the moment I was pregnant. Something was just off. Plus I am very in tuned with my body. I did not even need a test to tell me what was up. Le boo and I were very excited. The next few weeks were very tough. I could not keep anything down, not even water. I would vomit at the slightest smell of anything. I was so nervous about everything. Was tempted to do an ultrasound every week.  I did not play with my health at all. I was seeing one of the best OBGYN available. And my dear friend and neighbor was there for me. Cooked all my meals forced me to eat. Poured water on my head whenever I felt sick Took me out to get air. I once vomited in the market 😂 . And yeah in traffic inside my handbag. Was also constipated at a time and the hospital refused to give me anything to relieve me. Could not believe my eyes.     Second trimester was uneventful, I had moved in with MIL and my mum was close. It was a bit easier. An

There's always this anticipated rivalry or hostility towards daughter in-laws from their mother in-laws. Most young girls expect to have a vicious Mother in-law and are supposedly being groomed for war by their mothers, aunts and already married friends. This is common in Nigerian societies. Nollywood did a great job of fueling that fear, every mother in-law is bad, every one of them thought no girl is good enough for their son. Unfortunately, quite a number of those stories are true.    Growing up, Coco was groomed to be a good and caring wife. She's a very sensitive, level- headed human and is never ready for a fight even with those who offend her. So naturally she did not anticipate any trouble. Never thought for once what her mother in-law would be like. She only imagined what her husband would be like & dreamt of spending the rest of her life with him. When she met her boyfriend's mother who later became her mother-in-law, She thought she was easygoing and funny

Though a local deployment isn't as tough as an international one (as the military wife may visit her husband's station once in a while), home coming is still exciting and something many military wives look forward to.   She may prepare for home coming by changing a thing or two about the home decoration. She may also plan to prepare her soldier's favorite dish or learn something new. The military wife could also get new underwear 🙈🙈. The couple have certainly been communicating by social media, Skype phone calls and have discussed what they would like to do within the short time of his visit. Maybe see a family member who just had a baby. Check out a new restaurant or centre in town. Take the family out. Though they may not end up doing all these things they are certainly moments to look up to, to create memories about. Looking forward to bonding before the somewhat sad day of departing comes again.  Here's how some military spouses prepare for home coming

                        She first heard about Ebola from her younger siblings when they lived in Central Africa. It sounded very scary, dreadful. Coco also took some classes in Microbiology and Zoology in the university so she understood how virulent and deadly Ebola could be. When it first broke out in Guinea she knew it was only a matter of time before it got to Nigeria. Anytime she watched the news she wondered the measures the Nigerian government was taking to ensure it didn't spread to Nigeria. One morning, she woke up to a blackberry messenger broadcast saying a Liberian citizen had just died in one private hospital a street away from her house. Ehn!!! This cannot be true o. Jesus Christ!!! She checked other social media platforms nothing yet. Only for Linda ikeji to confirm it. Chai.            In the weeks that followed she followed every single detail closely. She wasn't going to have Ebola because of anybody's carelessness. She washed her hands all the tim

Growing up I learned age 30 was a landmark age. Many women dreaded turning 30 before getting married, before I knew better I thought a woman had to be married before turning 30. You had to finish school and get your dream job before turning 30. I had dreams, very big dreams. I wanted to be a cardiac surgeon, I was very sure I would become one. When that didn't work out I wanted to become an architect, a pharmacist, a DJ, even a pilot to beat my aerophobia. I thought I was brilliant, now I know I am. I thought things would go exactly the way I wanted, life soon taught me otherwise. Life taught me that not all our plans fall in line with Gods plan for us, life also taught me that our decisions greatly affect the next phase of our lives. Am I disappointed, yes sometimes I wish I could go back and undo some things I did and have a different outcome. How do I feel about becoming 30? I don't know or maybe I do. But I am not scared. A lot of people make a very big deal about it. A lot

               Many Nigerians are not enlightened about Post partum depression because we tend to spiritualise everything. Post partum "baby blues" is a common complication which occurs after childbirth. It typically begins within the first two to three days after delivery and may last for up to 2 weeks. Some women may experience mood swings, crying spells, anxiety, irritability, appetite problems, and difficulty sleeping. This phase should resolve within 2 weeks.However, if the above symptoms do not resolve after the said time, or if symptoms are more intense eventually  interfering with your ability to care for your baby and handle daily task, it is called Post Partum Depression. Post Partum Depression is a severe birth complications which can last up to 6months after birth. Symptoms of PPD include Severe moods swings & crying spells.Withdrawal from family,friends. Neglecting the baby, Difficulty sleeping or over sleeping, intense irritability and anger, feelings of w